MBTI(Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) helps us to understand why certain areas in life come easily to us, and others are more of a struggle. And more importantly, it is an invaluable tool to mark out career path, and improve inter-personal relationships. I gradually recognize myself as a typical INTJ. But do you understand your honey’s temperament? I’m trying my hand at figuring it out.
So these might be her preferences in the 4 dimensions:
1. Flow of Energy
Every person has two faces. One is directed towards the outer world of activities, excitements, people, and things. The other is directed inward to the inner world of thoughts, interests, ideas, and imagination. This dimension defines how we receive the essential part of our stimulation, from within ourselves or from external sources. Basically, Joanna and I have a powerful inner world of ourselves. While feeling tired, we require an amount of private time to recharge batteries. So we are both introverted.
2. Method of perceiving/taking in information
Some people tend to use their sensory organs firstly, to learn colors, sounds, smells, tastes, temperature and so on. While the others seek to understand things from an overall pattern. Yes, her memory is so good that every time she recall past events in rich details, while I can only pick up fuzzy pictures. If given a brand new research topic, she always tends to set off to investigate on the spot, but I tends to stay at home making layout within my brain. So I guess she is sensing.
3. Method of judging/making decisions
Is she prone to decide things based on objective logic or subjective feelings? The answer is the former one for certain. She is thinking. This preference might be deep-rooted in her mind through the years studying sciences, I think. I admire my girl, who accepts conflict as a natural, normal part of relationships. To find out and deal with conflicts between us is not so frustrating as many people think.
4. Action orientation towards the outside world
All people use both perceiving(sensing and intuition) and judging(thinking and feeling) processes to manage our lives. Yet one of these processes(perceiving or judging) tends to take the lead in our relationship with the outside world while the other governs our inner world.
Is she more comfortable with scheduled, well-organized environments or open, casual environments? She is always proudly saying that she’d like to “take tic-for-tac actions on-the-go”. This means she adaped to variety, flexibility and multitask well. Phew! my big girl is perceiving.
Sum them up. She is a mechanic(ISTP)! Of course, this does not mean that her personality falls strictly into this category. She (and I) still functions in the opposite realms. And as we grow and learn, we’ll develop the ability to function well in realms which are not native to our basic personalities.
Anyway, from learning about other people’s personality types, we can identify their natural preferences and find the most effective way to communicate with them.